The biscuit tin has been opened. The coffee has been supped. The approaching use-by date on the shortbread made it clear my sojourn here would be lasting a little longerâ€¦
When I landed on the 30th of March with only the main things packed in my suitcase; I never imagined that almost half a year later Iâ€™d still be here. Yet here I am, and most likely till early 2021.
Breaking the seal on the shortbread I was saving to savour with friends in Jakarta, was the first sign that I was resigned to not getting back for a while. As was using up the two bags of Darkwoods’ speciality coffee I had been introduced to by Mocha Life.
I had bought three. One for here. Two for there. – One for me, one for a friend.
Even though the coffee facilitated some lovely #mochamoments with my brother -particularly on Sunday mornings- finishing the last of the beans was bittersweet.
I didn’t expect all things covid related would be over in a flash. I knew thereâ€™d be lasting consequences into next year and potentially beyond. However, I didn’t think we would still be as â€˜in the thick of itâ€™ as we are.
In full awareness that I am extremely blessed, I’ve still had to challenge myself to navigate from Resignation to Reframing. This is not to say that I haven’t allowed myself to feel and express disappointment, uncertainty, frustration etc. As these, and many others, are natural responses and emotions for times and circumstances such as these.
I have, however, had to choose -sometimes daily- to see the circumstances in a different way. Holding the tension between acknowledging things not being exactly as desired, with choosing joy and thankfulness. Amplifying the good without suppressing the not good. A verse from the Bible says:
â€œSumming it all up, friends, Iâ€™d say youâ€™ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, graciousâ€”the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.â€Philippians 4:8
Recently when a cousin of mine was looking for a new frame for a piece of art, she pointed out that having the correct frame makes all the difference. Explaining that the right frame enables you to see the piece in its best or a different light. Possibly also revealing that it is actually not just a one-dimensional piece and so on.
You see the piece itself remains exactly the same, but reframing it can significantly change how you experience and appreciate it.
I think the same can be said for some of the circumstances we find ourselves in. Whatâ€™s happening may continue to be challenging, but sometimes reframing it can allow you to journey with it a bit better.